> Competence at what?
There is a class of people who believe leadership is something you can learn on its own. These are the people who join all the useless commitees for resume building purposes. Leadership only has value when paired with significant knowledge in some domain.
> Avoiding strong personalities purely for the sake easing hostility sounds a lot like cowardice.
Cowardice is when you avoid something, because of fear. GP is talking about avoiding people who will annoy you.