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0 pointsSohcahtoa822y ago0 comments

I knew a woman that legit would frequently leave her purse in her passenger seat. Told her it was only a matter of time before someone broke in, but she just insisted that she hated carrying it around, and would just pull out her credit card from it when needed.

Sure enough, her window got smashed and her purse was stolen, and she was all Surprised Pikachu. She legit didn't think it would ever happen.

And you know what...I really don't think it's victim blaming when the victim not only didn't do anything to protect themselves, but even took action to make themselves a prime target. Leaving a purse in sight? Might as well just leave cash on the dashboard. She could have at least put her purse in her trunk or glove box, somewhere it can't be seen.

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ryandrake2y ago· 1 in thread

I don't know how "victim blaming" became such a taboo. There are plenty of cases where the victim could have avoided the problem entirely by taking easy, sensible precautions, but nowadays if you point those things out (for the benefit of future potential victims), you're an evil Victim Blamer. People have agency--we're not just helpless sheep walking through life getting inevitably victimized by things totally beyond our control. It should be OK to talk about preventative measures.

Sohcahtoa82OP2y ago

It became taboo because people victim-blame in cases where it's entirely unwarranted.

For example, in cases of rape, some people will ask what she was wearing, as if that actually has anything to do with it.

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