I think the presumption of what users want is a kind of classism. Users are humans and as humans we have a hierarchy of needs that can lead to certain tradeoffs. Doesn't mean only the techies appreciate things like privacy and having agency over software. Just because corporations don't give us a choice doesn't mean "the market has decided". So you aren't an outlier you are just aware and maybe more interested in the problem than someone who isn't a programmer.