Thanks for trying aider, and sorry to hear you had trouble getting the hang of it. It might be worth looking through some of the tips on the aider github page:
https://github.com/paul-gauthier/aider#tips
In particular, this is one of the most important tips: Large changes are best performed as a sequence of thoughtful bite sized steps, where you plan out the approach and overall design. Walk GPT through changes like you might with a junior dev. Ask for a refactor to prepare, then ask for the actual change. Spend the time to ask for code quality/structure improvements.
Not sure if this was a factor in your attempts? But it's best not to ask for a big sweeping change all at once. It's hard to unambiguously and completely specify what you want, and it's also harder for GPT to succeed at bigger changes in one bite.