> I realize such thoughts are a terrible handicap in networking situations and I'm working on improving that.

There is no magic bullet so that's actually a pretty good approach to improving things. :) It just takes time...

It can seem fake to try to take the positive angle but it's important to try. When you have the choice between choosing to think of yourself as awesome or not, try to always choose the awesome option--even if you don't really believe it...

Also, if someone ever tries to compliment you on something, make sure you don't try to deflect it--just say "Thank you" with a smile.

Yeah, it all sounds a bit wanky but I've found it helpful for me. :)

(Also, check out Bar Camp Auckland http://twitter.com/#!/barcampauckland if you've not been before--there's some good peeps involved.)

Good luck!