Yes, the expectation to give up focus on the self and go into familial service is what directly leads to them missing opportunities to do things like marathons after they reach 30.

> Without reading too much into it, let’s not deemphasize family rearing importance to society in order to emphasize the need to fill some equality gap

Why not? Many women talk about it at length, it's already been a part of feminist theory and action for a long time.

Why should I not listen to them if they tell me they've been hurt? Because it "could be complicated?" On a site dedicated to intellectual stimulation that won't cut it for me.

I really recommend you to check out Invisible Women by Caroline Criado-Perez to get a sense of the breath and number of barriers we put up for women. They are not being given a fair choice, and they're it loudly.