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0 pointstimeagain2y ago0 comments

Subjective it must be, if my boss talked like that it would give me flashbacks to entitled customers I had working in food service.

Edit: to expand, the “I need” language has an implicit imperative. Since it is implicit, the listener/employee needs to internalize the command, and internalize the idea that the bosses “needs” are the employees “wants”. Maybe I’m psychologizing too much, but I haven’t ever met someone who talked like that who I could get along with. A baby cries when it needs something, mommy responds. As adults we should handle our own needs by turning them into actions to fulfill them ourselves or requests to have others fulfill them.

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woooooo2y ago· 1 in thread

I'd feel the same way if I heard it in food service. Corporate motherfucker who doesn't actually work.

If I hear it in the context of both a knowledge job and a high-trust relationship it works way better for me, here is the problem and we need it solved.

lelanthran2y ago

>> entitled customers I had working in food service.

> I'd feel the same way if I heard it in food service. Corporate motherfucker who doesn't actually work.

Hang on, to you, "We need some paper towels at this table" equals "Corporate motherfucker who doesn't actually work"?

Just how sensitive are you and GP?

I've actually worked in food service, and a table telling me "we need some paper towels at our table" didn't trigger any negativity in me at all, nevermind the extreme PTSD sort of negativity that that sentence appears to trigger in you and GP.

TBH, if you're triggered by the phrase "We need some paper towels at this table", then you probably have ... some sort of condition?

Waterluvian2y ago

It also suggests people work for the boss and satisfy the bosses needs. The boss is a leader and organizer, not a master, satisfying the needs of the project/team/company.

“The trash needs to be taken out. (who wants to | can you) take responsibility for getting it done?”

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