I think your description of linting can be true, but not necessarily for every eslint configuration. I feel that I've landed on configs that feel useful to myself and the rest of the devs in the team. Even with a rule set that contains many rules that can look nit picky at first glance, no one complains since they are auto fixable, and fixing is a part of a commit hook.

There are a handful of rules that are nice to have in a TypeScript project to make sure devs don't do things that break type safety. Plus some that avoids mistakes from slipping through (even though the code is reviewed).

One thing I've found super useful is to have @typescript-eslint/ban-ts-comment enabled, but configured so that you can still use @ts-expect-error and the others as long as you provide a comment when doing so. This is so nice when doing code reviews, either someone has provided a very good reason for the exception, or it is clear that the same result could have been achieved with a better approach. Same goes for disabling eslint rules inline in a file, also allowed if commented. I feel that this is a very good compromise between being strict with linting, but also not letting linting get in the way.