Anticipate the next time the boss "reminds" you to give him your password, and have your phone recording when it happens.
In many US states, it is legal to record a conversation if one of the parties is aware (i.e. if you are recording a conversation in which you are a participant).
I'm uncomfortable with doing this in normal circumstances, since it's a pretty manipulative way of getting a recording of someone. But if you're getting abusive requests from your employer and (I agree) you're not likely to get it in writing, this seems like the appropriate response.