ASML definitely wanted to sell to China to increase their quarterly revenues but couldn't because the US owns the IP for the EUV tech and ASML's EUV light sources are made by CYMER in the US, which ASML bought but they're still under US trade restrictions.
So no, ASML and the NL government have to dance according to the moves dictated by the US gov as they own the keys to EUV tech, not ASML/NL.