I agree with you. I was happy to jump to Lemmy right away then after only a few days they were talking about the defederation of some of the biggest instances. I originally liked the idea of federations since it allow a way to deal with problematic instances, let the steam blow temporarily. Then, I followed some of the discussion and was appalled by how folks some folks were using federations as way to curate their echo chamber and censor political idea. This is just what we need, another social media that shows recomforting opinion and demonize anything else.

I personally don't have the time or the energy to follow stupid turf wars and trying to find out who is federated with who.

Tbh, beehaw should better defederate from all other instances to spare us the pain of interacting with its users. They can live in their high horse-land themselves (until a subgroup declares themselves to be higher horses and kick out the others)