> However, after a negative event in a relationship (abuse, or your spouse dying, or your child getting sick), people in general were more likely to have more friends and a stronger communal relationship that resulted in mutual aid (emotional and/or material). This isn't gone today, just greatly diminished

I would really need to see citatio for that. Because by all I know about past attitudes, pretty much the opposite happened. A lot of abuse was normalized. You even see that in memoirs - pre was memoirs frequently mentioned violent partners and the only respite was his death. The attitudes now are much different.

Even today, in remote Amish or Mormon communities, victim gets blamed, told to be submissive a and that is that. I mean, I literally heard sermon from conservative priest about how men should hit table with fist and if he hits woman she should cook better soup to chill him out.