I totally have to rollback anything i said before. Just now i understand what happens in the background. Nobody is directly granted and the waitlist is indeed there to block me from using it.
I just hammered against it and found out you are totally right. Which is a real pain, because i have lots of things to test and checkout with more tokens.
I am working with a friend on something, and i know he has access, we share the code and tomorrow i wanted to start using GPT-4 with it.
So i am now as disappointed as you are.
Sorry for my confusion, but like i said, i had no prior need for a paid account (api) and the docs do nowhere mention that.