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0 pointswatwut3y ago0 comments

What about asking "what do you want to do" instead of suggesting an activity? The partner here is making reasonable guesses anyway, they are not misinterpreting, they are just not stupid.

They assume you are not setting up the following conversation:

- Would you like to go to beach? - Yes, I would love to! - I am really opposed to the idea!

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mock-possum3y ago

My goto has always been telling other people what I want up front, before asking them what they want to do.

So - “I just want to stay here and chill - how about you, do you want to go to the beach?”

Or - “I’m starving, are you hungry? Should we get food?”

Doxin3y ago

How about people learn to take what I say at face value? Yes I can work around this sort of nonsense, but doing it all day is exhausting to me.

I've learned how to deal with this sort of thing well enough to the point where most people that know me wouldn't guess I'm autistic, but it sure as heck would be nice if we all didn't invent weird-ass mind games for no benefit all the time.

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