Also, non-autistic people (apparently called "allistic"? TIL).
My partner does this exact same thing. I'm never able to find out what she wants to do, because any such question becomes reinterpreted by her as a "he must want to do this, so I must say what I think he expects me to say" game.
What about asking "what do you want to do" instead of suggesting an activity? The partner here is making reasonable guesses anyway, they are not misinterpreting, they are just not stupid.
They assume you are not setting up the following conversation:
- Would you like to go to beach?
- Yes, I would love to!
- I am really opposed to the idea!
How about people learn to take what I say at face value? Yes I can work around this sort of nonsense, but doing it all day is exhausting to me.
I've learned how to deal with this sort of thing well enough to the point where most people that know me wouldn't guess I'm autistic, but it sure as heck would be nice if we all didn't invent weird-ass mind games for no benefit all the time.
