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0 pointssdfghswe2y ago0 comments

Saving face means that you made a mistake that has become obvious and you try to avoid owning up. That's not the case here.

Example: if you ghost your teacher without quitting that's inconsiderate, and calling it "saving face" is saving face.

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FabHK2y ago

They're saving the author's face by not explicitly telling them that their services are no longer required. (They're obviously implicitly telling them, loud and clear.)

contravariant2y ago

This makes me wonder if the author would get more response by phrasing it with less 'finality'. More 'please let me know if online lessons are not convenient right now' and less 'if online lessons are not good enough let me know to my face and we can end this forever'.

sdfghsweOP2y ago

Possibly, but the way I read it, ghosting wasn't just associated with this last "online lessons" episode, but had happened before many times. At least the way she tells it sounds it was very common.

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sdfghsweOP2y ago

Oh you're saying that from the student's POV they think the teacher will feel like having their services terminated is their own failure? Ok, that's plausible.

But how is ghosting saving face then? Wouldn't telling the teacher that the teacher is amazing, but for different reasons they can't have any more lessons be saving face?

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0 pointssdfghswe2y ago0 comments

Saving face means that you made a mistake that has become obvious and you try to avoid owning up. That's not the case here.

Example: if you ghost your teacher without quitting that's inconsiderate, and calling it "saving face" is saving face.

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FabHK2y ago

They're saving the author's face by not explicitly telling them that their services are no longer required. (They're obviously implicitly telling them, loud and clear.)

contravariant2y ago

sdfghsweOP2y ago

Possibly, but the way I read it, ghosting wasn't just associated with this last "online lessons" episode, but had happened before many times. At least the way she tells it sounds it was very common.

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sdfghsweOP2y ago

Oh you're saying that from the student's POV they think the teacher will feel like having their services terminated is their own failure? Ok, that's plausible.

But how is ghosting saving face then? Wouldn't telling the teacher that the teacher is amazing, but for different reasons they can't have any more lessons be saving face?

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