I think also that “trad” is an umbrella to which many hands hold.

Tradcath: traditional lifestyle Catholics

Trad homeschoolers: arguably some of the most steadfast and longest holding countercultures. They literally have children and raise them opposite or tangential to the current culture norms.

Trad Christian theonomist: complimentarian views on marriage, anti secular government, often homesteaders.

Trad chads: men pursuing lives of purity at any social cost. Staunchly opposed to todays hookup culture and LGBT influences.

I'm not familiar with this, but your last point was curious to me. Can you not have "radically traditional values" and be a single man living in a big city? Or at any rate, it's not respected, so these people you are talking about are pretending to not be single and not live in a big city?