I see. I wonder if you've been phrasing this (tricky) question correctly.
For example, if you've been asking "I don't smell bad right?? I smell great, right!?" you're unlikely to get honest replies.
Reminds me of "The Mom Test" [1]. The book has a few tricks that can help with asking tough questions and receiving an honest feedback.
[1] https://www.momtestbook.com/