You are very out of date, on a modern car the rear brakes will go first. With traction control they move all the braking to the back, if possible, so steering works better. Of course if you brake hard there is no choice but let the front brakes take over, see my comment about bad driving.
Sure. My last car was a Mercedes AMG that needed new pads every 8-10k miles, so I might be a bit biased. But TBF my car before that was a Land Rover Discovery 3 and that was eating pads like crazy despite not driving it aggressively at all - I attributed it to the weight of the vehicle.