I know this just your example but I think it demonstrates the larger issue with victim culture. Cinco de Mayo is not actually a very important holiday in Mexico. I agree that it’s not good to turn everything into a negative interaction but it’s not clear to me that having “cultural appropriation” as a top of mind issue is a very healthy thing either.
Cultural appropriation is nonsense.
Probably most of what we are is a result of cross-pollination of cultures.
Who gets to decide who belongs to one group or another?