The recent discussions seemed to have been kicked off by a TechCrunch guest article by Penelope Trunk: "Stop Telling Women to Do Startups" [1].
Two of the more prominent responses are blog posts by Laura Klein ("STFU About What Women Want" [2]) and Zach Holman ("Women Should Do Startups" [3]).
[1] http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3340143
[2] http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3342194
[3] http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3344982