> so too a 'federated' system where operators set arbitrary rules that result in whatever server they don't like being unreachable.
Nah. If you can pick your king, he's not really a king. The intended recipient of your communication decided to join a server that censors your type of message.
The problem is when the federation becomes a trust, and members collude. Like Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube, for example. The more division, the more federation, the harder it is to collude.