My commute is 100 foot walk, I still strugle with not having enough time.
Sell the house and rent closer to the office. If its the midpoint between two jobs, either you or your wife needs find a new job to shorten the distance between them. If it is because of the school districts for your kids, you are going to have to decide your priorities.
But realize that the long commute is a choice entirely within your families control and you need to change it.