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0 pointsvanderZwan3y ago0 comments

That's... an interesting interpretation of what I said, because my motivation is the opposite. I had not considered it could come across as dismissive, thank you for pointing that out.

However, when I ask this it is not to dismiss someone, it's because if I understand why something is important to them I am better at arguing in good faith without accidentally being dismissive of what matters to them. Which helps with reaching a consensus, or a respectful point of agreeing to disagree.

Also, it's an important question people should be asking themselves but rarely do.

0 pointsvanderZwan3y ago0 comments

That's... an interesting interpretation of what I said, because my motivation is the opposite. I had not considered it could come across as dismissive, thank you for pointing that out.

Also, it's an important question people should be asking themselves but rarely do.

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nyokodo3y ago· 4 in thread

> That's... an interesting interpretation of what I said

In a non-verbal exchange this choice of an explicit pause followed by the use of the phrase "interesting interpretation" could also be misconstrued as an underhanded compliment/sarcasm further undermining your alleged intention.

helmholtz3y ago

And? GPs response was way more combative than the explicit pause. The guy took pains to highlight "assuming a good faith discussion". Clearly, it's a question that IS on the table. It's driven by wanting to understand further the other side's thought process. I'd love to have a question like that. It would make me pause and ponder and reflect. Always a good thing. Not "immediately end the discussion". Crikey.

vanderZwanOP3y ago

Sure, but at some point interpretation tells you just as much about the interpreter as about the person saying something, and I'm not responsible for the former.

nyokodo3y ago

> but at some point interpretation tells you just as much about the interpreter as about the person saying something

Maybe, but it's totally unnecessary if you want to foster open and good faith discussions as you claim.

hitekker3y ago

I think the GP is being patient. Instead of policing his tone, you should reconsider yours. It sounds like you’re upset for an unclear reason.

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