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0 pointsSohcahtoa823y ago0 comments

> You have the life experience to know what will and won't affect you, and you've found an equilibrium of control and impact that apparently makes you happy.

I think some people have too much empathy to ever reach that point.

I have a few friends that literally broke out in tears when Russia began the invasion of Ukraine. They don't know a single person in Ukraine. Nothing about the war truly has an effect on their day-to-day lives. They don't even have investments that got clobbered.

Yet they shed tears over innocent civilian lives being lost.

These people have been on the verge of nervous breakdown ever since COVID hit.

Seeing people on such an extreme end makes me feel like I might be slightly sociopathic because I read the news and just think "Well that sucks" and then move on with my day, knowing it makes no difference to me and my life.

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NotTameAntelope3y ago

What you're feeling is selfishness, not sociopathy, for what it's worth! I don't think a sociopath would wonder what you're wondering here, but I'm no expert.

kbelder3y ago

Not just selfishness... I'd describe it as a healthy amount of selfishness, and the others he's mentioned probably don't have enough.

Sohcahtoa82OP3y ago

I think of selfishness and I think of taking deliberate actions to serve ones self at the detriment of others. Things like hoarding limited resources or taking a second slice of cake before everyone has had their first.

I will never forgive you, John. You denied me cake.

NotTameAntelope3y ago

So inaction can't ever be selfish?

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0 pointsSohcahtoa823y ago0 comments

> You have the life experience to know what will and won't affect you, and you've found an equilibrium of control and impact that apparently makes you happy.

I think some people have too much empathy to ever reach that point.

Yet they shed tears over innocent civilian lives being lost.

These people have been on the verge of nervous breakdown ever since COVID hit.

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NotTameAntelope3y ago

What you're feeling is selfishness, not sociopathy, for what it's worth! I don't think a sociopath would wonder what you're wondering here, but I'm no expert.

kbelder3y ago

Not just selfishness... I'd describe it as a healthy amount of selfishness, and the others he's mentioned probably don't have enough.

Sohcahtoa82OP3y ago

I will never forgive you, John. You denied me cake.

NotTameAntelope3y ago

So inaction can't ever be selfish?

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