My point is you’re not stripped of every opportunity to socialise if you choose to go remote, and it’s entirely feasible to replace the loss of office based social interaction with some other social interaction.
This is separate from my belief that friendships form via shared context not shared activities: https://billmei.net/blog/friendship
> have time to persue
The scenario is commute takes time, you save 2 hours commuting. All other things being equal that is your time to peruse hobbies.
> have opportunities near me
Not my assumption, many people socialise over video games over the internet. There are many other internet social communities. Geographical proximity is not a strict requirement.
> As someone with kids, free time..
Not relevant - see comment above about more free time from not commuting.
My actual assumptions are you commute to work and you can’t use that time to socialise. Approximate round trip commute time is 2 hours not including prep time.
As I’ve mentioned elsewhere - If your only possible hobby is socialising at work then it sounds like WFO is for you.
That doesn’t automatically mean many other people are socially worse off from WFH. Many people have other social hobbies they can do or don’t mind picking up.
I’m challenging the narrative that you are strictly socially worse off by working remote.
I think for a lot of people, that social fix is easily within reach in some other form.
No, that’s not my underlying assumption.
> I’m challenging the narrative that you are strictly socially worse off by working remote.
Your challenge to the narrative has the assumption (among others) that people have additional time outside of work to socialize. Most parents don’t have consistent free time to dedicate to a social activity.
Or the social activities they might enjoy, involve some skill prerequisite they don’t have, or time commitments they can’t keep.
Essentially, if someone was already a social person and had existing social groups for those hobbies that the office commute interfered with, then wfh was a gift.
But for those who enjoy their job, and enjoyed in-office collaboration, there is going to be a lot of effort and several prerequisites required to attempt to replace that outside the office.
I’m saying if you choose to WFH or remote you can still enjoy social activities.
The “you’ll always be worse off socially if you WFH” argument isn’t valid.
If your personal situation dictates that it’s impossible for you to social outside a work/office environment and that would hurt your quality of life, you should absolutely WFO.
Just understand that it doesn’t apply universally and WFH and having plenty of social interaction is entirely plausible and within reach for many many people.
My problem was lack of time and energy. The commute and the effort of commuting just killed any desire to seek out social activities after work. Work was not getting in the way of any specific hobby I already had.
Once that constraint was removed, I could actually start figuring out what stuff I was interested in and perusing it.
I was surprised how much stuff is out there once I started looking for things to do.
The answer probably has to be either live with that or seek out work environments more to their liking. Note that this isn't even wholly a WFH/COVID situation. For years, I've worked with a very distributed group of people. If I went into the local office pre-COVID, there would be people there but potentially I wouldn't run into anyone I knew and almost certainly no one I directly worked with.
