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0 pointsandrewljohnson3y ago0 comments

Having a family and responsibilities made this infeasible for me. Most apps on my phone are denied notifications, but people can still text/call me.

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namaria3y ago

I also have family and responsibilities. But I am very careful whom I give unfettered access to my attention.

andrewljohnsonOP3y ago

The issue for me is, for example, my wife drops my kid off for a camp and then the camp calls me in an emergency. So I can’t just only take notifications from known callers.

NRv9tR3y ago

You can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.

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rnotaro3y ago

On most recent version of Android, they have a whitelist feature where repeat callers (2 times withing 15 minutes) can bypass DoNotDisturb.

Only my close family are whitelisted.

Most time people call twice during an emergency. You could also say to call back again in case of emergency in your voicemail message.

copperx3y ago

Everybody who depends on you directly (partner, children, parents, and extended family) should be on you VIP contact list and have direct access to you. I find that reduces my anxiety. I don't get distracted by notifications, or the thought that someone might be dying and trying to reach me.

ge963y ago

Just commenting about phone calls

I have stranger phone call anxiety and the other thing is spam/scam calls. Which thankfully my phone has been good at flagging/blocking.

Regarding notifications I used to have phones that either had LED blinking indicators or sound/beeping ahh, crazy used to just drop what I was doing to check it.

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mirekrusin3y ago

If wife is nice, she can be whitelisted, no?

jdshaffer3y ago

I have family and responsibilities, too. I've so far survived by allowing ONLY notifications from texts and phone calls. The key is that I'm able to ONLY give my text information and telephone information to family.

I know others probably can't do that, but it works great for me.

LeonM3y ago

Not sure about iOS, but with Android you can create exceptions for selected contacts in the do-not-disturb mode.

I've added my family members to that exception list, and leave the phone on do-not-disturb mode 24/7.

ska3y ago

This works well for some people, but not universally as noted elsewhere in the thread.

I guess it basically comes down to: how likely is a call from an unknown number to be important for me? It turns out this is wildly different for different lives.

patrulek3y ago

Humans lived centuries without instant messaging. Probably nothing wrong happen if you miss a call.

Popeyes3y ago

If you have Android. Minimalist is very helpful in blocking app notifications.

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