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0 pointsadamrezich3y ago0 comments

>I feel hurt.

>I shouldn’t be made to feel like this

this is entitlement.

    en·ti·tle·ment
    /inˈtīdlmənt,enˈtīdlmənt/
    noun
    the fact of having a right to something.

somehow reading a Code of Ethics for an open-source project you had an extremely slim chance of ever contributing to has emotionally injured you enough to express said injury on the Internet. when you say "I should not be made to feel like this", you are saying that the sqlite devs are morally in the wrong for having their Code of Ethics written the way that it is, because just reading it caused you pain, because of their implicit disregard for your feelings, Random Person On The Internet.

I'm having trouble seeing the disconnect between "somebody on the Internet has a project whose Code of Ethics caused me emotional pain because it made me feel unwelcome" and the word "entitlement". could you please clarify?

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somehnguy3y ago

There's something about your line of commenting that just strikes me as dishonest and to be completely honest, kind of gross. I can't quite put my finger on why I feel that way about it though. Maybe the air of superiority that comes though, like you're talking down - 'so entitled, I however would never feel such a thing'. I dunno. Just thought I would say my thoughts out loud, take it as you will.

teakettle423y ago

Frankly I thought the opposite.

It was a cogent breakdown of the flawed reasoning upon which then original author’s premise lies.

adamrezichOP3y ago

thank you—it's disappointing that trying to get people to articulate why they feel a certain way about something is met with such pushback. the parent comment to yours is especially baffling—I can't imagine publicly telling someone that what they've written is "gross" without being able to directly explain why, because that just seems unjustly offensive to me. as an amateur Internet ethnographer I have theories about the pathology of course, but there's no point in sharing them here.

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