because his wife (and the kids) are going to be affected by the decisions he makes.
it doesn't take an expert in career development.
a partner is also the person that you should be able to share your innermost feelings with.
burnout especially is something partners should talk about. if your partner doesn't understand why you have problems at work then that will cause problems in the relationship.
sure once you have identified a problem you may need to seek out an expert. but you should still talk with your partner before taking any steps.
if i come home telling my wife that i decided to move to new york because they have the best treatment for my cancer then that's not going to fly. that kind of decision only both can take together.
same goes for changing jobs. it might change the commute, oe require a move. or reduce their income. OP was unhappy at work, taking on a better, but less well paid job was at least a possibility.
