A lot of urbanists overlook the way online culture and modern logistics have brought so much of the "culture" (good ethnic cuisines and food trends) to the suburbs and even exurbs in weeks/months instead of the 10+ years trends used to take to travel.
Anyone who grew up in the burbs in the 70s-90s and goes back today can observe this.
Anecdata - I have a sibling who lives in fairly rural MAGA country outer exurbs and yet has both bubble tea & pho shops in driving distance.
Similarly "well everything is so far in the burbs".. ok well, I've lived nearly 20 years in NYC and my average commute has been about 40 minutes. All my friends live all over the 5 boroughs, most of which are a good 30-40 minutes by uber or subway. We mostly see each other weeknights after work in midtown/downtown since thats closer.
Remote or even 2-day in-office hybrid work makes the trade offs of being 30~60 miles outside the city much more attractive.
The city has many conveniences and also a ton of inconveniences, it doesn't take a lot to put the balance out of whack and make you question why you pay so much for it.