That's where the buck stops, because definibg what a non-combatant is is easier then deciding who is "innocent".

Sanctions are trickier, I just fail to come with an alternative to them.

My counter-point is that almost everyone from my friends, family and colleagues are upset about the war, and many left the country

"but they're not innocents." ===> I'm wondering if those crazy bombers think the same as you do when killing/bombing "Civilians" instead or armed forces.

You logic was prevalent in feudal times. If someone attacked you, you'd wipe they whole city/area and their entire family tree just to make sure theree's nobody left to take revenge.

Considering the cost of the bomb, I think the expected value is rather likely to be negative.