Actually, centralized databases like DNS are a symptom of a larger problem: society is so used to the idea that you can centralize power, votes, money etc. in one place. It is why we have celebrities and state governments, and privately owned social networks. It is also why smart contracts are still based around blockchains and they allow weird things like flash loans, because only one transactiom can run at a time for the whole world.
So the problem is that bill.gates@gmail.com or bill@microsoft.com is accessible to anyone who can use the SMTP protocol. And a phone number is accessible to anyone who texts it. That’s crazy.
Instead, we shouldn’t have DNS or centralized domains at all. DNS is just a glorified search engine that only really helps you find the root resource at a site, the /index.html thing. The vast majority of URLs on the Web aren’t going to be verbally shared anyway so you may as well store them as non-human-readable strings and let people save some local or hosted index. The titles and other metadata can be taken just like google does.
In this case, sending an email would require the recipient to have given out a capability that was received by you. And if some capability was compromised, they’d just deactivate it. It’s like this dude’s email aliases, but far better