I think you have a mistaken view of who is actually making money in this equation. Developers do not make all that much money from building housing, which is actually a productive contribution to society. Homeowners, on the other hand, make hand over fist by simply sitting on land absorbing rents:
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EyJN_g3UUAIW0f0?format=jpg&name=...https://www.wsj.com/articles/homes-earned-more-for-owners-th...
Secondly, suburbs are drastically subsidized by denser development. They resist densification because they don't want to pay their fair share.
https://www.strongtowns.org/journal/2020/4/16/when-apartment...