An adjacent comment just responded with what I was gonna type.
> … All that's being pointed out here is that it can't both be the case that there are no relevant differences between men and women and also that a phrase like "women and children" is useful. You have to pick one.
I deliberately sidestepped that whole can of worms by pointing out that it's combat presence that matters, regardless of the cause. The relevant difference is how many of them are wearing a uniform.
I would not be more outraged if the Taliban killed an armed American servicewoman than a serviceman. If you would, then that's your opinion, but you should stand by it instead of attributing it to me.