It’s not a list of failures, but a list of ideals, e.g. if she gets mad about tripping over your towel, you might write:
-always hang up towel after use
A relationship is like building a house, you can build one with out a ruler, but it will probably be more stable if you use a rule®.
These ideas/rules aren’t all equally important, but they provide a rule for straightening out or constructing a more stable house.
Note: this is related to a whole topic of life satisfaction and rules :)
