There, the fault lies with the provider in either choosing the wrong spouse; they should have been pickier.

Or being an unaware jack-ass. For the latter, it helps to list out the responsibilities, to make sure the division of labor is equitable.

Or marriage counseling.

> however, if you're being supported by someone who works 40, 50, whatever hours per week, suck it up and move the glass.

An ambitious worker—the topic I’m responding to—isn’t putting in a mere 40 hours a week. More like 60 to 80 hours if not more.

Those workers also face divorce for being inattentive, but they’re also playing catch-up for the house; car; private schools and the general lifestyle that comes so easily to compensate for the extra income.

There is no “sucking it up” unless you have a time machine or don’t need to sleep.