Everything changes all the time without exception. Getting used to change serves everyone.
And besides, it's pretty clear HE regrets the decision. Maybe learn something from the person who lived the experience.
> Everything changes all the time without exception. Getting used to change serves everyone.
This statement is meaningless. Change in life is constant, but everything doesn't change all the time. You weaponize this statement as if to say we - or at least one spouse - should abdicate their agency in their own or their shared life.
Which is pretty ironic because if saying "everything changes constantly" is meaningless, what about your advice to "learn" from a comment on the internet about a man he doesn't know at all that "regrets" something neither of us really know about ?
One example has zero value as a "life changing lesson" and one can regret objectively awful things (regretting the feeling while high on drugs, etc).
The marriage still fell apart.
No single decisions is totally all-bad or all-good.
He should be making every reasonable effort to support her.
You're just making stuff up. You don't know this is the case.
You're making a straw man argument here... none of the comments above say "defer completely" or "every single decision".