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0 pointsmetadat4y ago0 comments

Well, I'm within a year or so of being forty. I've have been on about 75 dates over the last two years with women aged 29 to 50s.

IME, often the desirable ladies in their forties have been those who stayed in a dead end relationship for (way) too long. If someone has never been in an LTR by the time they're 35, they were always quite odd and I learned it's a good idea to double click and ask questions to learn what might be going on there.

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300bps4y ago· 1 in thread

Well, I'm within a year or so of being forty. I've have been on about 75 dates over the last two years with women aged 29 to 50s.

Huh, the first version of this comment before you edited it said:

Yes I'm in my forties, have been on dates over the last two years with about 50 women aged 29 to 50

Another comment from you in this same story says:

Soon I should probably ask if she'll marry me, advice on this would be welcome :) we are 9 months in

Congratulations on dating about 50, I mean about 75 women in about 15 months. Also congratulations on regressing in age!

Since you explicitly solicited advice in your other comment - I think a man in his 40s (or almost 40) would be insane to propose marriage to a woman he's dated for 9 months.

metadatOP4y ago

I'm 39, upon re-reading my post I didn't want to be dishonest. And tbh, it was probably more than 75. An epic quest full of interesting people and good learning experiences to discover what is actually out there! But alas, this isn't my primary account - so I try (and happily fail often) to keep it vague. Not that big of a deal either way in the end.

> Since you explicitly solicited advice in your other comment - I think a man in his 40s (or almost 40) would be insane to propose marriage to a woman he's dated for 9 months.

Haha, thank you! Because of previous trauma, I am also hesitant to rush anything. Then I also have my sister (who just had a baby last year) whispering and telling me to just have a kid with my gf, even if we aren't married. I think she's just baby crazy at present, or perhaps she really does hate me and is playing the long game :)

p.s. Not that you asked or that it's really any of my business, but I'll try anyway: One pattern I've noticed in our exchange is you seem to get a bit hung up on the small details. My interpretation is that you are probably a really great engineer, of the sort I enjoy working with the most (seriously). Just don't forget to zoom out and view the forest from time to time!

Sincerely,

Metadat

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