This is the cause of the same fight over and over. One side is annoyed by something that is small and takes little time to do. The other side says why are you annoyed by something that is so insignificant? The other side says if its insignificant to you why cant you do it?

I've had some version of this argument 1000's of times and its ended a lot of relationships I had pre marriage.

I have 1000 things I'd like done that take less than 30 seconds. I don't have 4 hours to do them all.

> An addition to this unrelated to marriage - if it takes 10 seconds, why isn't it already done instead of considering whether to do it or not?

"I might re-use it" is in the article. It's a matter of preference, and who's more willing to make A Thing out of it, not objective right and wrong. I, for one, think dishes-in-sink (if they can't fit in the dishwasher but it's also not full enough to run yet, or if it's running, or if it's clean and you're in too big a rush to empty it right that second) is worse for a whole list of reasons, unless you have very limited counter space, but we do it anyway, because I don't care enough to insist on doing it my way, and my wife does. Whatevs.

I do wonder how many quietly-very-slightly-suffering spouses there are out there, over this exact issue.

The other day my wife said, "Ugh, I hate it when you run the dishwasher during the day, because then I have to empty it before filling it."

Sometimes you cannot win. But it's still a game worth playing: being married is the best thing that ever happened to me.

That works for you. I prefer to plan and psych myself up for this stuff. Don't expect everyone to want to handle household tasks exactly on your schedule.