When my wife and I started dating, we stumbled across this video which I like to recommend to friends and family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r1tCAXVsClw

The speaker talks about the "Price of Admission" when it comes to relationships.

We consider these "minor irritations" as the Price of Admission :)

Kinda Tao of the ietf: try to meet expectations and be accepting of failure. But dude, if she says dirty dishes by the sink won't fly you should listen. 30 years of that can break anyone. One of the colditz pows said the way a guy asked you to pass the salt for 5 years straight could be semi fatal

Disrespect is not minor.