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0 pointsfleddr3y ago0 comments

Your assumption may be wrong though. Especially if you work internationally, the greeting ritual may be a form of civil courtesy.

I do hate it though. Just ask the damn question, don't wait for me to say "hey" back.

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chousuke3y ago

I wish we could just get rid of that particular form of "courtesy".

I can't help but be annoyed or distracted by naked hellos, regardless of the intent behind them, so to me, they are rude. I understand that they might be some sort of social ritual, but I can't for the life of me understand how it's in any way courteous to ask for someone's attention with an expectation of a synchronous reply before revealing anything about why they want your attention.

But I suppose the majority feels the opposite for some unfathomable reason.

fleddrOP3y ago

It's a misuse of tools indeed. It's something to do on the phone, not in a (supposedly) asynchronous communication tool. But hey, some people even use email synchronously.

I tried to punish the naked hello senders, by simply not responding at all. If you can't be bothered to tell me why you need me, I can't be bothered to respond.

Unfortunately, empathy broke it. I work with a lot of remote workers in India. They make long hours and I know they need something from me, I just don't know what. By intentionally not responding, I feel bad about effectively sabotaging progress.

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