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0 pointsmaleldil4y ago0 comments

Do you think it wasn't acknowledged specifically because it was suicide, or was it an overall culture of not addressing the cause of death in general? Because the second one sounds fine to me.

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BoorishBears4y ago· 4 in thread

How is it fine?

Causes of death are not fungible, dying in a freak accident and dying from suicide in a high pressure setting should not be treated the same.

Especially since we know that suicide can act like a contagion: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207262/#_sec_0078_ and the demands of the program they were in were almost certainly a factor

maleldilOP4y ago

If it's specifically with suicide, then the company has a stigma with mental health, which is not okay. However, if it's always "teammate died" with no extra information, I can respect it.

Your teammates are not entitled to know your cause of death. That's a personal thing, but you aren't there any more to choose if it's okay to share.

BoorishBears4y ago

If there's whispers the cat is out of the bag... the most respectful move is to simply address it and extend counseling

Your cause of death isn't a personal thing either by the way, it's a matter of public record in most states (and of course word tends to get out with something as emotional as a death)

philwelch4y ago

It’s exactly because suicide is socially contagious that it makes sense to stigmatize it and not openly discuss it.

BoorishBears4y ago

That makes zero sense at all.

People learned this person committed suicide and the organization decided not to address it. That is strictly worse than addressing it no matter how you slice it.

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