> Lost here is the gentle pursuit of a modest competence, the doing of something just because you enjoy it, not because you are good at it...
Isn't this the issue, though? If "you are what you do", because you link your identity to that, and what you do isn't "good", I can see how than can cause some issues.
To take your example, if you're taking up jogging, so you can run a marathon, so you can take some Instagram photos at the finish line, so you can get the likes, this is the end result. So of course, just cruising around the block won't attract the likes, so it doesn't really help the end goal, does it?
I think the issue is one of not stopping to smell the roses.