I'm a pretty normal chap, and I work very well, on a team. I spent my entire career, doing just that. If you want to assume that I'm a jerk, I guess that's your prerogative; but I'm not. I'm a really decent person. In another world, we might actually find a lot in common, and have a great relationship, but in InternetWorld™, we have to be enemies. Not sure what that buys you, but it's a free country, I guess.
I don't have a "patron." I'm working for free, for a 501(c)(3), doing an app for a nonprofit. It's pretty much my show. I spent thirty years, working on other people's code, and watching them destroy it, so I like working on my own code, and having it done right.
Oh, and that server that I wrote? It took about ten years, to find a team that was capable of managing it properly. When they did, it became a world standard, and I was happy to step away from it; pretty much completely. It's used by thousands of people; every day. That advanced technique that I used is exactly why it lasted so long, and was able to be localized and extended. The core code is still the ancient code that I wrote in 2008. It works great, and folks haven't found a need to change it. The fact that I can hook it into the modern app that I'm writing now, is testament to its Quality.
Also, it's free code, for altruistic purposes. I donated ten years of my life to it. It is not hyperbole to say that it has saved many lives.
If you feel that's not something to be encouraged, then I don't know what to say.