My words included two options, one of which includes those words — and I disowned the first option. Please read it again and then read his comment again. Selective quoting won’t change that I was providing a reflection of two possible reads of his comments, and I endorsed the latter in good faith. If you think my first option is unreasonable as a characterization to write down, I’m not sure how I can more clearly express that this is a reading that someone can fairly arrive at - I just think it’s wrong. I provided these two options because he could rephrase his comments to avoid the first one entirely to sharpen his argument. If the parent hadn’t expressed that it was “hard to get a bead” I wouldn’t have provided the first option as feedback to try to express the possible “beads” in question.

If you don’t think there are people who are actively misleading people on this topic or that a comment can’t be read that way, I think we should agree to disagree. People will read a lot of things in this area in bad faith and they are also often wrong because there is intentional obfuscation by large-scale adversaries.