If you care about those things very deeply, then perhaps that is exactly the right thing to do. Lots of people don't do things because of ideological or personal beliefs, even if it limits their options.
If I choose to use a slightly inferor alternative because the name makes me uncomfortable, that is perfectly legitimate.
If using ReiserFS costs me a number of weirdness tokens (like using it in a workplace, and the relevant decision makers are likely to know about the murder now or in the future), then I may choose not to use it to conserve those tokens for other controversial initiatives that I care about even more.
Neither of those decisions may be "rational", but it's also not moralising. I simply have to take a complicated social/emotional calculus into account, something that most do unconsciously 24/7 without thinking "hmm, today I shall get on my moral high horse and decide that this is moral and the other thing isn't".