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0 pointspuszczyk4y ago0 comments

I’d say the opposite, there needs to be a delta between values and actual behavior.

I want to be a good husband, dedicated employee, etc. Am I? I’d like to think more often than not. But we all err, and I value the transparency/courage to ack that we are not perfect on our values and still have a long way to go.

For me the a flag would be if a person/company is not willing to acknowledge they are not as good as they public values are. (Because how can they improve if they can’t even ack it).

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marcosdumay4y ago

You mean that you should not hide of the difference between values and behavior?

Because there's nothing on that comment that actually supports the difference. And if you are being honest, descriptive values should describe your behavior very closely.

ARandomerDude4y ago

The thing you're struggling with is the parent's humility.

Value: be great at everything all the time

Parent: I try very hard but often fail

You: then you must be dishonest about your values

Humility is a virtue not a vice.

shadowfox4y ago

Not the OP, but that situation seems to indicate espousing unrealistic values at the least or am I misreading what you are saying?

marcosdumay4y ago

> then you must be dishonest about your values

Hum, no, but then he is talking about the "aspirational values" that the GP pointed.

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0 pointspuszczyk4y ago0 comments

I’d say the opposite, there needs to be a delta between values and actual behavior.

For me the a flag would be if a person/company is not willing to acknowledge they are not as good as they public values are. (Because how can they improve if they can’t even ack it).

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marcosdumay4y ago

You mean that you should not hide of the difference between values and behavior?

Because there's nothing on that comment that actually supports the difference. And if you are being honest, descriptive values should describe your behavior very closely.

ARandomerDude4y ago

The thing you're struggling with is the parent's humility.

Value: be great at everything all the time

Parent: I try very hard but often fail

You: then you must be dishonest about your values

Humility is a virtue not a vice.

shadowfox4y ago

Not the OP, but that situation seems to indicate espousing unrealistic values at the least or am I misreading what you are saying?

marcosdumay4y ago

> then you must be dishonest about your values

Hum, no, but then he is talking about the "aspirational values" that the GP pointed.

j / k navigate · click thread line to collapse