> And of course you need a car since public transport isn’t a thing there.
Are we talking about Seattle? We definitely have public transit here.
> Sending children to a good colleage is probably 50k+ a year just in tuition.
If they don't get into UW you mean? UW in-state tuition is only $11,745 (I say "only", but it is much higher than when I went there). However, it is a very competitive state university to get into.