Agreed, and that's why I mentioned I think you shouldn't just silo yourself. That doesn't seem to work either. I don't really have a good answer or alternative, more just pointing out how the dynamics of team based software development seem to be optimized towards burning out programmers. I don't know how to fix it, but it seems to be a problem.

A first step is probably treating your developers skilled specialists (hopefully you've hired a good team, of course), and not just code monkeys who have to show their manager a progress report every single day.