I did something different. Moved back to my country, had an 'arranged' marriage and am content now. Work remotely and happy with it too. Funnier issue is that a lot of women of my race in USA did not want to date a first generation immigrant.I do not want to generalize and do social commentary but I hope we hear more comments from many sides of the story. Matchmaking is always going to be Darwinian in the extreme sense but the sense of low confidence it created in me when in USA was quite high.